I survived, but will never be the same.

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month, and something that EVERYONE talks about, but wait it’s also Pregnancy, and Infancy Loss Awareness Month. Now I know how important Breast Cancer awareness is, my little sister Desi, was diagnosed with the dreadful BC when she was 26 and it’s been hard to watch her struggle and everything, but this month is also something that effects 1 in 4 women but is NOT talked about at all. We live a secret, a terrible secret one that NO ONE wants to talk about. We wear a bag of shame, one that is hidden from the world, no one wants to know or talk about losing a baby, and if you’re pregnant, please DO NOT talk about this.
I got this response Friday night at a family party, I don’t take offence to it anymore, they just plan and simply do not understand. I was basically told not to talk about my loses to my SIL who is 20 wks pregnant because it’s scary, Ummmm YES it is, very scary and be the woman that has talked this path not just once, but 5 times, really more than that if you count my 3 miscarriages. But when I see women that are pregnant I only wish them the best, I would never ever want to see anyone walk in my shoes. But I think that women NEED to know that there is a dark side, a side that it a living nightmare, it’s not fun for us that have been thrown in to this, and sometimes it makes the world of difference for us if we can talk about it.
I am a survivor, I have survived something that is beyond the horror of normal day life, NO Mother should ever outlive their child, no one and yet many of us have. So while you’re thinking about ways to raise awareness about Breast Cancer why not think about the 1 in 4 of us that have suffered the loss of a child and see what you can do to raise awareness about this dark secret..